Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Kindness, An Underrated Virtue


            At times, I have felt like a rejected door-to-door salesman visiting new patients at Missouri Baptist Health Center as a volunteer for the Pastoral Care program.  From the very start of each visit, I get a strong impression of what the response will be as I share my information about spiritual offerings.  Despite the clear occasions of rejection, there are always moments that make me so glad that I have come to do this every month.

            Today’s highlight—and possibly this year’s top encounter—came about mid-morning when I walked into a room where two patients were happily visiting seated across the room by the window.  I knew these women were both the patients because each one had on a highly fashionable hospital gown.  The younger lady, in her mid-fifties, quickly let me know that her roommate, an impressive 91 year- old, had significant hearing loss.  We proceeded with my efforts to talk louder while we all got a little better acquainted.  Both women were quite cheerful and obviously enjoying the visiting going on.

            People have such interesting stories and some can be quite moving in different ways.  The lady closing in on 100 shared just a little, mostly praising her hard-working doctor.  Life had been rather eventful for her roommate.  After 28 years with a St. Louis company, both she and her husband were fired right after the new owner took the reins.  She was about to go home from the hospital after a relatively minor procedure, but there is a larger health issue that is being monitored.  Not exactly where she expected to be at this point in life, I would imagine.

            However, along with her husband, she is moving to a new city and making a new beginning.  Part of the draw to this particular Midwest city is that a daughter and her 14-month old child are already living there.  I felt like saying, “You go, girl,” but that is not really something I ever say.  What I did do was cheer her positive outlook, commending her moving on and looking forward, not back.  Part of my enthusiasm for her attitude stems from my own job loss, a part-time position I had been in for 19 years, now four years ago.  I referred to this as getting “deleted” from the screen.  She seemed drawn to this computer analogy maybe because she was a computer whiz in her former life.

            When I walk out of a patient’s room, I usually make a short notation on the printouts we are given in preparation for the short totaling slip we fill in before we leave the hospital.  Standing in the hall, I overheard the ladies’ continued conversation and thought about how great it is that someone experiencing such undesired work and personal circumstances was so ready to be kind and compassionate to a woman who had been a stranger no more than a day earlier.  Surely this “adoption” is part of what Jesus describes when He explains how He separates the goat from the sheep as those who see a stranger and “take” them in (Mat. 25:34-40).

            I have commented on more than one occasion that simple kindness is a highly underrated virtue.  One of the first things I noticed when I met the man our daughter married was his kind and gentle manner.  Today’s encounter with these women was another time I was struck by this quality in others.  In Psalm 19:1, the firmament is described as the “handiwork” of God.  I would add that kindness from the heart expressed from one person to another is certainly  God’s handiwork, also.  Both can be beautiful to behold.

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